First off - thanks for the help with this - it was timely and right on point!
I checked on the well pump and it's a 1.5hp Red Jacket 20G which is listed as pumping around 18GPM. I didn't check the actual flowrate because the spigots are on 1/2" lines. Pressure and flowrate don't seem to be a problem in this house.
There should be a tee on the pressure tank with a 1/2" or 3/4" boiler drain valve. Use it to get a fair idea what gpm you have. And if you are going to be working on private well water, get yourself a flow gauge and rig it up with a pressure gauge and stop valve to be able to actually measure flow at the average psi that the pump is operating at.
The pump being a 20 gpm should be delivering 20 gpm at its rated water depth. You find that info on the pump chart for the specific pump (hp and gpm) @ such'n such psi.
I fired up the iron filter and it seems to be performing smoothly. I installed a 1" drain line control valve with a 14GPM button. I adjusted the differential switch to maintain 45-65 psi in the tank, per Gary Slusser's advice.
Part of changing the pressure range of the pressure switch is adjusting the captive air pressure in the pressure tank. You must do that with no water in it.
The air pressure has to be 1 psi less than the pressure switch setting to turn the pump on. I.E. 45/65 gets 44 psi of air pressure with no water in the pressure tank.
If you use anything that heats the air as you add air to the pressure tank, when you turn on the water it will cool the air and that reduces the air pressure, So 1 psi less than the cut in pressure setting, with no water in the tank (or you don't get the proper volume of air).
I set the 7000SXT up for a 15min backwash with a 5 minute rinse every other day since the iron contamination in this well is relatively low and it's a 2 person household with moderate water use.
You can notice the variation in flowrate as the pressure tank cycles, but it sounds like a very vigorous backwash (which this was a clear tank instead of being painted black). Seems to be good to go and hopefully a good cleaning of the media to prevent clogging.
You probably didn't adjust the air pressure in the pressure tank.
You'd think the "professionals" here would have mentioned the pump gpm, the possibility of running the well dry during backwashing or with the frequency of backwashes you mention. And then that the family size, the amount of iron and the size of the filter do not require backwashing every other night....
Also, where is the drain water going and will it be OK with the volume of water based on your DLFC, drain line ID and the length of time you have it flowing?