You need to check out the whole system.
Is the bladder tank in good condition and correctly precharged? A bad tank could lead to pressure switch failures.
Is there enough water in the well? Are you pumping it below the depth where a shallow well pump will work? You could put a vacuum gauge on the suction side of the pump. If you don't have a check valve on the discharge side, then you need a gauge that will withstand the pressure when the pump is shut off.
Do you have an air leak on the suction side of the pump? That could cause the violent discharge when air comes out of the tank. Air would also cause the pump to never reach pressure.