Well Gents the mystery is solved. I found the name of the original installer called him and after telling him my issues he came out and has already pulled the pipe and well. the down pipe was actually all galvanized from the top of the well casing to the pump itself the casing is a 4" steel casing with a 3" pump the bracket at the top is there to take some of the pipe and pump weight off the pitless. When we pulled the pipe it had wholes in several places as well as in the adapter to the pump. the pump itself was worn out he put his gauges on it and only got 40 psi out of it. so wholly pipe, worn out pump. we replaced it with a gunderson (i think thats how you spell it) 1/2 hp 230 v pump and PVC down pipe put it all back together and found that the pressure tank was bad as well he tried several things to reopen the diaphram i guess they can collapse on them selves but that didnt work I put a new one in and all is good no more short cycling we have good water and good pressure.
Thanks for all the help having 2 issues in the same system can really throw you through a loop.