well thank you all for input, it looks like i am going with toto drake, the height is the same on tank as mine at 29 1/2", but tank is 20" to outside of handle so allows me an extra 1 1/2" space, and has comfort height bowl. my plumber measured the one in his dads home, and will work. i dont have to wait 4-5 weeks, and i can fix existing toilet and put down and get rid of the 50+ yr old toilet that is way too low, etc....
have a great weekend guys
i appreciate it