People are not so much distrustful of each here other, most are just ignorant to each other.
Like for instance, you talk about physical disabilities? Well, a few years back I had a Picc Line in my arm. Clearly visible since it was summer. For those who do not know what a picc line is, it is an IV that ran from my heart through the main vein in my neck to the outside of my arm. Throught the opening of the skin on the outside, dangles a very purty plastic tube so, a connection can be made to the pole which holds whatever, you need dripped. It is another way of making a person a vein. My husband had dropped me off at the door of the market and I was holding my arm to my side when, an older man, about 40 years older than me, slammed the door on my arm, knocking out the tube and blood was everywhere. I asked him, " why did you do that?" He said, " you didn't hold the door for me and I am old."
Today, I had to have the stitches and staples taken out, all 10.5 inches of them. Well, I had to cancel 2 appt recently to do this due to 1. A major snow storm 2. More recent an ice storm. This woman in the office has never much liked me, I cannot imagine why, since I am nice to her. But, today, here I sit to hear her tell me that she drives in any weather, yet, from the opposite direction of where the storms was at. I said to her, " you ever have an accident?" Of course she never did, and when I informed her of mine, she said, " well, you just got to get back up on that horse." I informed her, that even horses won't walk on ice. And, reminded her, that 5 diagnoses of cancer shows that horse is worn out but, I still get on that poor thing. Then, she had to see the incision and grabbed my head & hair in such a fashion I yelped and pushed her hand away, telling her it still feels like someone hit me in the back of my head with a baseball bat and to be gentle. She is just ignorant.
I work for a woman who wins prizes at being ignorant. She tells you, " I don't want to be nice." Yeah, I noticed...
Oh, Ian, hang around the USA and you will see, we are not distrustful as much as just ignorant. And, it is not the same as manners, like saying, thank you or please. The words are spoken through actions.
I did hear a couple of words today that did sting. The surgeon asked what the oncologist told me. So, I said, this and that. When I asked him, his opinion of the report, he said, " I don't care." You don't care? He said, " I don't care." He said, all he cared about was that it was not lymphoma. When I asked what it was though, he said, " I don't care."
So, there sat this pathetic little person with a really bad haircut having a really bad hairday, and no one cared. That my friend, is America.
And, to add the govn into the picture is like adding insult to injury.
I should add, that after a few moments while looking at this man who wears the white jacket and has all the knowledge, I said, to him on my behalf, " you know, no one knows what it is like when you get a major illness, no one knows how hard it is to be a person like me."
With that, he looked at me sheepishly, and said, " okay, Cookie, I will see you in 3 or 4 years." Which I added, " 30."