Problem solved, answer is that Danze is garbage! One thing good is they have great customer service. Almost everything I bought had some defective in some way but the sent good replacements that arrived in a couple of days. So far they have sent me  shower valve trim kits,  shower valve cartiage,  diverter valve cartiage, and one complete angle mount elbow.
I never really found the leak but it was either where the brass pc threaded on the nipple [I used teflon tape and thread compound] or a problem with the o-rings.
I will have trouble buying danze again. The price is good, the trim pcs are nice [brass and nice and heavy], the cartiage are plastic the service was great.