Note jsmith that I am not a plumber, just a Mr. Fixit whose rainwater system is the envy of the county...
I don't use warm or hot water to wash most of my clothes. Even if I did, it is the rinse cycle that is usually the problem
Maybe simply cuz the rinse cycle needs-water-NOW vs. the wash cycle which just waits indefinitely til the tub reaches the level you asked for.
the guy used the hot water supply to the toilets instead of the cold - he said it cuts down on sweating.
I've heard of this before, when the water coming-out of the the ground was icy cold. Maybe not so wierd.
Or did he know something about the cold water supply and decided there was more pressure through the boiler???
Hmmm, I'm more a "people are really stupid" guy then "people are so smart there's a conspiracy everywhere" kinda guy, but if there IS more pressure on the hot side, it likely is due to the boiler, i.e. it acts somewhat like a pressure tank (without the air-pressure bladder inside). It's prolly big enough that when you have no water from the well, the "hot" side seems to hold pressure longer than the "cold" side.
The house is only about 7 years old but was built by a guy who fancies himself
Ha, ha, we gots lots of those guys right here!!!
we had water for a little while when we first moved in....My husband thinks if we moved the laundry back to the basement we wouldn't have all of these problems with the washer
Sorry, but, this is a "well, duh!" IMO. The basement is near the supply as well as "under" the weight of the water in the rest of the house. So it's gonna be the last place you feel any pressure before the water is gone. As for having water when you first moved-in, maybe the underground supply had built itself-up from lack-of-use and you just worked it down faster than the owner had been doing.
my husband tried to replace the filter cartridge and cannot get the housing loose to open it up and replace it. The pipes move but not the housing and he is afraid
What did I miss--I thought earlier-on in this thread you said something about bypassing this filter? Gotta do that--it could very well be causing the got-pressure/now-got-no-pressure problems you have i.e. water trickles thru the filter to load-up the pressure tank, then you use the water and the trickling must continue to load-up again. I'd get the blasted thing the heck out of there macht schnell. Get your hubbie and one of his macho friends out of the local saloon long enough to take care of this--one guy holds the pipes while the other wrenches the filter housing off.
...we seem to go through an inordinate number of valves...could it be pressure induced?
But... how could you think (too much) pressure is ever your problem! It's likelier that they are getting corroded from disuse (you DON'T waste water on the great out-of-doors anyway do you?) Take a boxfull of the bad ones in to your best hardware store, and the old guy in there will tell you why they failed. "Hose bibs", spigots, outdoor faucets... J, are you from WI originally? Didja know that "bubblers" is exclusively a WI term? Something you gotta get out of your vocabulary when you leave the state, or folks look at you funny.
You are gonna get smart about all this stuff, and after you've fixed your house you can offer your services to the neighbors...