A few days ago you said you were a dealer for IWT.
Below is a link to a sales brochure for one of their softeners; at the bottom of the page you can read all about its SFR.
Maybe you should look at sales brochures for the other brands you mention not having seen any info about the SFR of their softeners.
All of IWT's softeners that I have looked at have a published SFR on the softener's sales brochure.
Another place to look would be on resin manufacturers' web sites and their spec sheet for each of their resins (but I doubt that you will).
BTW, your shower is probably 2.5 gpm and most washing machines are 3-4 gpm and that equals a peak demand of 6.5 gpm, while a 1.0 cuft softener usually has a SFR of 9 gpm. IWT says their 1.0 cuft has 10 gpm. Maybe that's why you've never had hard water break through ya think? It will break through as soon as you go over 9-10 gpm.
I see you've finally came around to getting into salt efficiency LOL. But 6 lbs/cu ft is not the lowest you can use.
A bit more time and you should be into correctly sizing a softener based on the peak demand of the household's water use that you plan on selling/installing a softener in. Or maybe not...
Here's the link.
http://www.iwtwater.com/uploads/IWT 165 Softener.pdf