You need to put back the same size pump. If you install a larger pump, you may pump the well dry. It is hard to size a pump correctly without all the information on the well. The exact depth of the well and the production of the well are needed to know what horse power and how many stages you need.
Not much difference in any of the brand name pumps. Hydroflo, National, Goulds, Sta-Rite, Grundfos, AY McDonald, Flint and Walling, are brand names just to name a few.
There is nothing new about variable speed pumps. VFD's have been around for decades. They have made changes every year, and still have not got them working dependably. But if you want a pump system that cost a lot and doesn't last very long, a variable speed or "constant pressure pump" is what you need.
A Cycle Stop Valve is the only reliable way to get constant pressure. You can use a CSV with a much smaller pressure tank, and it will deliver constant pressure from any of the standard, more dependable pumps. CSV's have been replacing variable speed pumps for more than 16 years.
It wouldn't hurt to at least get a price from a pump company. You many find that it is not as bad as you thought. At least you will know what horse power and how many stages they think you will need. If they can't tell from your set up, they will know about the size of other systems in your area. Saving a thousand bucks is a good thing if everything works out. If you do it yourself and have problems or drop something in the well, that would have been the best thousand bucks you ever spent. Pulling and setting deep pumps is hard work. That is one reason they charge so much. Find a pump company that knows CSV's make pumps last longer, and variable speed pumps are a waste of money, and you have found someone with experience in the pump industry.
Doesn't mean you can't do it yourself, it would just be better if you had seen this done at least once before.